And here’s the photo that sparked all the controversy…this photo of singer Ciara and her son, not only supporting her new beau, NFL star Russell Wilson, at training camp but baby Future rocking a replica of Wilson’s jersey and seeming pretty close to the quarterback. According to the “media” timeline, Ciara and Russell got together about six months ago after bad breakups. The question is whether or not it’s too soon for Ciara to have introduced her son to Russell and allowing what seems to be a close relationship between the two to form. Add in the opinion of her son’s father, rapper Future, that it’s too soon and you have an all out public debate.
Let’s start with Future. If you paid attention to the family dynamic during Ciara’s relationship with Future, you would know that the very thing the rapper is complaining about is exactly what he did with Ciara. Their romance developed very quickly as well, and Ciara was spotted several times with Future and his children. Rumors are also swirling that he isn’t in baby Future’s life consistently anyway, so it seems that Future is lashing out from bitterness, not merit or concern for his child.
Now to the merit of the issue. It’s very important to REALLY know your mate, trust them and see a future with them before blending families for several reasons including the safety of the children and their emotional well being. It’s just as tough on the kids as it is the adults when a breakup occurs and the families were already blended. With that being said, I don’t think a specific time frame can dictate when the introductions happen. I think that adults have to use their judgment to determine when the time is right. I don’t think that Ciara is a gold digger with some ulterior motive. I think that she and Russell are committed and see a future together and made the decision to build the family dynamic. A lot can happen in 6 months…thoughts?