Why ‘Lil Kim’s Transformation is Even Sadder Than You Think
Over the weekend ‘Lil Kim released a series of selfies on Instagram showing off her new look. In only a matter of hours, almost everyone on social media was sharing their opinion about the rapper’s drastic “makeover”. It appears that she has went under the knife again and resembles someone of European decent.
Many wonder why ‘Lil Kim, who most thought was a cute girl when she hit the scene in the mid ’90s, has went to the extreme with plastic surgery and rumored skin bleaching. The men in her life may be the reason why.
In a 2000 interview with Newsweek, Kim talked about her father’s disapproval of her appearance and demeanor even at the tender age of 8 years old.
“It was like I could do nothing right. Everything about me was wrong — my hair, my clothes, just me.”
It ”s been said that once a person is emotionally damaged, they emit that energy and continue to attract those just like their abuser unless they seek counseling. Unfortunately Kim didn’t do that. Instead she left home at 14 and ventured into even worse circumstances with men who added to her negative views of herself.
“All my life men have told me I wasn’t pretty enough–even the men I was dating. And I’d be like, ‘Well, why are you with me, then?’ It’s always been men putting me down just like my dad. To this day when someone says I’m cute, I can’t see it. I don’t see it no matter what anybody says.”
“I have low self-esteem and I always have. Guys always cheated on me with women who were European-looking. You know, the long-hair type. Really beautiful women that left me thinking, ‘How I can I compete with that?’ Being a regular black girl wasn’t good enough.”
Shortly after Kim underwent several surgeries to change her appearance.
After her parents divorced, Kim tried to stay with her mother, but her father won custody due to his ability to care for her financially. However, it’s clear that she was emotionally abused while with him and her mother may have been the more nurturing parent. “I always knew my child would be somebody,” Kim’s mother, Ruby Jones, recalls. “She’d always be the one in her class who looked the most like nobody else. Her father never understood, and that hurt her.”
Unfortunately, ‘Lil Kim sees nothing wrong with her transformation and has been spotted chopping it up with women who appear to match her definition of beauty. And of course they look nothing like who she was born as. The saddest part is that ‘Lil Kim has a young daughter who will more than likely grow up with the same insecurities as her mother.